Wednesday, June 20, 2012

POSITIVE THINKING



Football coach Joe Paterno said that, and boy, did
he have it right. Nothing substitutes for positive thinking.
Nothing. It is more powerful than all the money, all the
influence, all the 'friends in high places' on earth.

You only need one friend in high places--and you already
have that. So go ahead, expect to get into the end zone.
You'll find that you do, 90% of the time.

Wednesday, June 6, 2012

DISCOVER YOUR PASSION

Want to help people discover their passion? To do that, John C.Maxwell's ask these questions:
  • What do you sing about?
  • What do you cry about?
  • What do you dream about?
The first two questions speak to what touches you at a deep level today. The third answers what will bring you fulfillment tomorrow. The answers to these questions can often help people discover their true passion.
While everybody can possess passion, not everyone takes the time to discover it. And that’s a shame. Passion is fuel for the will. Passion turns your have-to’s into want-to’s. what we accomplish in life is based less on what we want and more on how much we want it. The secret to willpower is what someone once called wantpower. People who want something enough usually find the willpower to achieve it.
You can’t help people become winners unless they want to win. Champions become champions from within, not from without

Monday, June 4, 2012

Success: What it isn’t By John C Maxwell

The problem for most people who want to be successful is not that they can’t do it. The main obstacle for them is that they misunderstand success. Maltbie D. Babcock said, “One of the most common mistakes and one of the costliest is thinking that success is due to some genius, some magic, something or other which we do not possess.” If that’s not right, then what DOES it mean to be a success? What does it look like? First, let’s talk about what it DOESN’T look like: Many of us have a wrong picture of success. Frankly, the majority of people misunderstand it. They wrongly equate it with achievement of some sort, with arriving at a destination or attaining a goal. Here are several of the most common misconceptions about success: 1. Wealth: Probably the most common misunderstanding about success is that it’s the same as having money. A lot of people believe that if they accumulate wealth, they’ll be successful. But wealth does not bring contentment – or success. Industrialist John D. Rockefeller, a man so rich that he gave away over $350 million in his lifetime, was once asked how much money it would take to satisfy him. His reply: “Just a little bit more.” King Solomon of ancient Israel, said to be not only the wisest but also the richest man who ever lived, said, “Whoever loves money never has money enough; whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with his income.” Even Greek millionaire Aristotle Onassis recognized that money isn’t the same as success. He said, “After you reach a certain point, money becomes unimportant. What matters is success.” 2. A Special Feeling. Another common misconception is that people have achieved success when they feel successful or happy. But trying to feel successful is probably even more difficult than trying to become wealthy. The continual search for happiness is one of the main reasons that so many people are miserable. If you make happiness your goal, you are almost certainly destined to fail. You will be on a continual roller coaster, changing from “successful” to “unsuccessful” with every mood change. Life is uncertain, and emotions aren’t stable. Happiness simply cannot be relied upon as a measure of success. 3. Possessing Something Specific and Worthwhile. Think back to when you were a kid. Chances are that there was a time when you wanted something really bad, and you believed that if you possessed that thing, it would make a significant difference in your life. When I was nine years old, it was a red and silver Schwinn bicycle. Back then, the thing to do in our neighborhood was to race around on our bikes. But I was riding an old hand-me-down bicycle, and I had trouble keeping up with the kids on newer bikes. But I figured that if I had that new Schwinn bike, I’d have it made. I’d have the newest, fastest, best-looking bike among all my friends, and I’d make them all eat my dust. On Christmas morning, I got my wish. And for a while it was great. I loved that bike, and I spent a lot of time riding it. But I eventually discovered that it didn’t bring me the success or long-term contentment that I’d hoped for and expected. That process has repeated itself in my life. Over the years, I found that success didn’t come as the result of possessing something I’d wanted. Possessions are at best a temporary fix. Success cannot be attained or measured that way. 4. Power. Charles McElroy once joked, “Power is usually recognized as an excellent short-term anti-depressant.” There’s a lot of truth to that statement, because power often gives the appearance of success, but even then, it’s only temporary. You’ve probably heard before the quote from English historian, Lord Acton: “Power tends to corrupt and absolute power corrupts absolutely.” Abraham Lincoln echoed that belief when he said, “Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.” Power really is a test of character. In the hands of a person of integrity, it is of great benefit; in the hands of a tyrant, it causes terrible destruction. By itself, power is neither positive or negative. Nor is it the source of security or success. Besides, all dictators eventually lose power – even benevolent ones. 5. Achievement. Many people have what I call “destination disease.” They believe that if they can arrive somewhere – attain a position, accomplish a goal, or have a relationship with the right person – they will be successful. At one time, I had a similar view of success: I defined it as the progressive realization of a predetermined worthwhile goal. But over time I realized that definition fell short of the mark. Simply achieving goals doesn’t guarantee success or contentment. Look at what happened with Michael Jordan. In 1993, he decided to retire from basketball, saying that he had accomplished all the goals he had wanted to achieve. And then he went on to play baseball in the minor leagues – but not for long. He couldn’t stay away from the game of basketball. He played again from 1995 to 1999. Then he retired again – for a couple seasons. He played his final seasons 2001-2003. Playing the game was the thing. Being in the midst of the process. You see, success isn’t a list of goals to be checked off one after another. It’s not reaching a destination. Success is a journey.

Tuesday, April 3, 2012

How to know you’re out in front By John C Maxwell


When You Get Kicked in the Rear,
You Know You’re Out in Front

Greek philosopher Aristotle said, “Criticism is something you can avoid easily—by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” Obviously, that isn’t an option for anyone who wants to be successful as a leader.

Good leaders are active, and their actions often put them out front. That often draws criticism. When spectators watch a race, where do they focus their attention? On the front-runners! People watch their every action—and often criticize.

Since criticism is a part of leadership, you need to learn how to handle it constructively. The following has helped me to deal with criticism, so I pass it on to you.

Know yourself.

Do you really know yourself? Are you aware of your weaknesses as well as your strengths? Where do you fall short as a person and leader? Not sure what your weaknesses are? Ask five trustworthy people close to you. They’ll be able to tell you where you come up short.

Know the criticism – and the critics.

When you receive criticism, how do you tell if it’s constructive or destructive? (Some say constructive criticism is when I criticize you, but destructive criticism is when you criticize me!) Here are the questions I ask to get to determine what kind of criticism it is:
■Who criticized me? Adverse criticism from a wise person is more to be desired than the enthusiastic approval of a fool. The source often matters.
■How was it given? I try to discern whether the person was being judgmental or whether he gave me the benefit of the doubt and spoke with kindness.
■Why was it given? Was it given out of a personal hurt or for my benefit? Hurting people hurt people; they lash out or criticize to try to make themselves feel better, not to help the other person.

Stay open to change.

Let’s assume you now know yourself pretty well. You can tell when a criticism is way off-base; maybe it’s directed more at your position than at you. And you know when a criticism is 100% legitimate because it’s about a weakness that you’ve already discovered.

But what about the gray areas? The criticisms that might hold a grain of truth? A good leader stays open to improvement by:
■Not being defensive,
■Looking for the helpful grain of truth,
■Making the necessary changes, and
■Taking the high road.

Accept yourself.

Jonas Salk, developer of the Salk polio vaccine, had many critics in spite of his incredible contribution to medicine. Of criticism, he observed, “First people will tell you that you are wrong. Then they will tell you that you are right, but what you’re doing really isn’t important. Finally, they will admit that you are right and that what you are doing is very important; but after all, they knew it all the time.”

How do leaders who are out front handle this kind of fickle response from others?



The Serenity Prayer, made famous by Alcoholics Anonymous and other 12-step programs, gives direction in this area:

God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

If you have endeavored to know yourself, and have worked hard to change yourself, then what more can you do?

Forget yourself.

The final step in the process of effectively handling criticism is to stop focusing on yourself. Secure people forget about themselves so they can focus on others. By doing this, they can face nearly any kind of criticism—and even serve the critic.

I try to live out a sentiment expressed by Parkenham Beatty, who advised, “By your own soul learn to live. And if men thwart you, take no heed. If men hate you, have no care: Sing your song, dream your dream, hope your hope and pray your prayer.”

As leaders, we must always be serious about our responsibilities, but it isn’t healthy for us to take ourselves too seriously. A Chinese proverb says, “Blessed are those who can laugh at themselves. They shall never cease to be entertained.”

***

My friend Joyce Meyer observes, “God will help you be all you can be, but He will never let you be successful at becoming someone else.” We can’t do more than try to be all that we can be. If we do that as leaders, we will give others our best, and we will sometimes takes hits from others. But that’s okay. That is the price for being out front.

Monday, March 26, 2012

INSPIRATIONAL SAYINGS

"Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict."

~William E. Channing~




"It is surmounting difficulties that makes heroes."

~Louis Kossuth~




~Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are.~

~Bernice Johnson Reagon~




"Men take only their needs into consideration, never their abilities."

~Napoleon Bonaparte~




"We would accomplish many more things if we did not think of them as impossible."

~C. Malesherbes~




"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all."

~Dale Carnegie~




"If not us, who? If not now, when?"

~Kennedy, John F.~




"Never be satisfied with what you achieve, because it all pales in comparison with what you are capable of doing in the future."

~Rabbi Nochem Kaplan~




"All our dreams can come true - if we have the courage to pursue them."

~Walt Disney~




"Dream as if you'll live forever. Live as if you'll die tomorrow."

~James Dean~




"If you're going to be thinking, you may as well think big."

~Donald Trump~




"Where there's a will there's a way."

~English Proverb~




"If you really want something, you can figure out how to make it happen."

~Cher~




"A determined person will do more with a pen and paper, than a lazy person will accomplish with a personal computer."

~Catherine Pulsifer~




"So long as there is breath in me, that long I will persist. For now I know one of the greatest principles on success; if I persist long enough I will win."

~Og Mandino~




"We will either find a way, or make one!"

~Hannibal~




"You have a very powerful mind that can make anything happen as long as you keep yourself centered."

~Dr. Wayne W. Dyer~




"Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything."

~Napoleon Hill~




"Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself."

~Ralph Waldo Emerson~




"Happiness is the only good. The time to be happy is now. The place to be happy is here. The way to be happy is to make others so."

~Robert G. Ingersoll~




"Did you ever see an unhappy horse? Did you ever see bird that had the blues? One reason why birds and horses are not unhappy is because they are not trying to impress other birds and horses."

~Dale Carnegie~




"You have succeeded in life when all you really want is only what you really need."

~Vernon Howard~




"Real happiness comes from inside. Nobody can give it to you."

~Sharon Stone~




"Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish."

~John Quincy Adams~




"That some achieve great success, is proof to all that others can achieve it as well."

~Abraham Lincoln~




"Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work."

~Thomas Edison~




"The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty."

~Winston Churchill~




"When written in Chinese, the word 'crisis' is composed of two characters—one represents danger, and the other represents opportunity."

~John F. Kennedy~




"He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else."

~Benjamin Franklin~




"Ninety-nine percent of failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses."

~George W. Carver~




"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover."

~Mark Twain~

Sunday, March 25, 2012

Why Not You?

Why Not You?
Author Unknown


Today, many will awaken with a fresh sense of inspiration. Why not you?


Today, many will open their eyes to the beauty that surrounds them. Why not you?


Today, many will choose to leave the ghost of yesterday behind and seize the immeasurable power of today. Why not you?


Today, many will break through the barriers of the past by looking at the blessings of the present. Why not you?


Today, for many the burden of self doubt and insecurity will be lifted by the security and confidence of empowerment. Why not you?


Today, many will rise above their believed limitations and make contact with their powerful innate strength. Why not you?


Today, many will choose to live in such a manner that they will be a positive role model for their children. Why not you?


Today, many will choose to free themselves from the personal imprisonment of their bad habits. Why not you?


Today, many will choose to live free of conditions and rules governing their own happiness. Why not you?


Today, many will find abundance in simplicity. Why not you?


Today, many will be confronted by difficult moral choices and they will choose to do what is right instead of what is beneficial. Why not you?


Today, many will decide to no longer sit back with a victim mentality, but to take charge of their lives and make positive changes. Why not you?


Today, many will take the action necessary to make a difference. Why not you?


Today, many will make the commitment to be a better mother, father, son, daughter, student, teacher, worker, boss, brother, sister, & so much more. Why not you?


Today is a new day!
Many will seize this day.
Many will live it to the fullest.
Why not you?

Start Where You Stand



Start where you stand and never mind the past,
The past won't help you in beginning new,
If you have left it all behind at last
Why, that's enough, you're done with it, you're through;
This is another chapter in the book,
This is another race that you have planned,
Don't give the vanished days a backward look,
Start where you stand.



The world won't care about your old defeats
If you can start anew and win success;
The future is your time, and time is fleet
And there is much of work and strain and stress;
Forget the buried woes and dead despairs,
Here is a brand-new trial right at hand,
The future is for him who does and dares,
Start where you stand.

The Vow

The Vow
By Malcolm O. Varner


No matter how deep the sadness or wide the pain,
I vow to live for a brighter day will come again.


No matter how many mistakes I’ve made in the past,
I vow to live and in the future avoid them, surefooted and fast.


No matter how many tragedies beyond my control take place,
I vow to live and stay my course within this race.


No matter how poor or rich I may ever be,
I vow to live and aspire to search for the dignity in simplicity.


No matter how much a lover may pierce the inner core of my heart,
I vow to live for like spring I’ll get a new start.


No matter how isolated and alone I may feel,
I vow to live and do something for someone else to heal.


No matter how hopeless my situation my appear,
I vow to live and reflect until my viewpoint is clear.


No matter what happens in this life – good or bad
I vow to live, do my best, and just for living – be glad.

Just One...One of it



One song can spark a moment,
One flower can wake the dream
One tree can start a forest,
One bird can herald spring.


One smile begins a friendship,
One handclasp lifts a soul.
One star can guide a ship at sea,
One word can frame the goal


One vote can change a nation,
One sunbeam lights a room
One candle wipes out darkness,
One laugh will conquer gloom.


One step must start each journey.
One word must start each prayer.
One hope will raise our spirits,
One touch can show you care.


One voice can speak with wisdom,
One heart can know what's true,


One life can make a difference,
You see, it's up to you

Thursday, December 1, 2011

The days gone by...



I miss the old days
When mom and pops would ride off to work and the house was ours to own…
I miss the long afternoons with nothing to do and no bills to pay
The mystery of love that twirled loosely in my young heart
I miss the sincerity of the ink letters that tore my virgin emotions lose
I miss the suspense that came with thinking if she would ever notice and write back…
I miss the dark nights where I took count of the starry velvet sky
Wishing intimately to myself of the day we would ride our magic carpet up on High
I miss the times we would gather and picnics we the in thing
I miss dancing in the rain; Watering the rose flowers in our mini-garden;playing shake in the courtyard
I miss the way I would record her a cassette tape full of songs she loved..from the radio..lol!
Yeah; it was either sundowner or late date that caught my fancy
I miss her shy smile and walking her home..no cars, no gadgets ;just we
I remember the long walk would go to and fro a dozen times; who didn’t do this?
I miss stealing the kiss just outside her home then suddenly someone came opening…busted!
I miss fumbling over my words..and saying nothing but gibberish
I miss that she really sympathized and gave me a second chance..
I miss saying “” I love you..and she saying “I love you too”!Like we knew what love was..
I miss the innocence of having to buy her a penny’s worth of goody goody…
Because frankly I did not have any money and she totally loved it!
I miss watching rythmix on Friday evenings and serenade her the blues
I miss the joy of sleep overs with pals and playing cards like we didn’t have a care in the world..
I miss the long strolls at aboretum park down the sunset lane..collectin’ souvenir pebbles
I miss the rain soaked windows, candle lit hot chocolate over a romantic movie..with her
I miss the days of call box and hoping my coins would last me through the convo…
I miss looking into her eyes; promising her the sun, moon and the whole galaxy; holding her hand..Wishing forever
I wouldn’t know what became of her now but it made teenhood all the worthwhile..
I do miss these and more..But ..
Though I treasure those moments; I live for the present because I’m jazz, I’m a hopeless romantic but ‘tleast I’m a keeper!


(c) jazzkuria